They hurt us and helped themselves at our expense. They made life hell, and oppressed us until we were made to move. They made the relationship unbearable and it wasn't until the breaking of the relationship that we realized all that we invested in it and all we were losing as a result.
No. You’re not stupid because you still love them. You’re not crazy because you can’t get them out of your head. Just because you still struggle, doesn’t mean that your faith in God has failed. Your brokenness has a purpose and the purpose is to teach you that, while you were not made for brokenness, you were DESIGNED to survive the break.