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Divorce

We’re Divorced, But He Left Me With An STD!

November 9, 2018
Divorce Soul Ties

This Book Saved My Life After My Divorce

October 21, 2018
Divorce

“My Ex-Husband Wants to Date Me Again…”

June 12, 2018
Divorce

5 Warning Signs that a Divorce is Becoming Emotionally Dangerous

June 8, 2018
Divorce reconciliation

Even If You Stay, You Still Must Heal and You Must Be Whole

September 26, 2017
Divorce Soul Ties Toxic Relationships

No. You’re Not Silly Because You Still Love Them

February 4, 2017
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  • “If they aren’t going to treat me right, I wish they would just let me go...”
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We get it. Because we’ve put up with their treatment for so long...because we’ve given them so much power in our lives, we don’t know what it looks like to take back control...
🤷🏽‍♂️🤷🏽‍♀️
In a word? It’s discipline. In two words—it’s self love. You have to have the discipline to walk forward towards better...and the self love to remind yourself that you deserve it.
❤️
God has already promised to deliver us from our enemies...even those we love but don’t love us back. He has parted the Red Sea for you... His requirement for you is that you walk through it, and don’t turn back...
❤️
If you need some help... The Soul-Ties Detox book is now on sale on our website! Its our journal and working with exercises at each stage to help you find healing wholeness. Click the link in the bio! .
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#soulties #healthylove #cybermonday #toxicrelationships #breakupssuck #healing #wholeness
  • EVERY MAN has a moment of Sink or Swim in his life...those moments that shape and define his character and strength as a GROWN man.⁠
👊🏾⁠
Unfortunately, in a misguided effort to support and uplift him, many women have stunted the growth of their men by removing their obstacles before he’s had the opportunity to do it for himself...⁠
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When I met Taccara, I had overcome homelessness. I’d lost EVERYTHING-TWICE. I had my own place. I had my own car—paid off. I was supporting myself and my children. Without her— And it was important to me that I didn’t take on a wife until knew I had these things in order.⁠
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When women offered to do things for me or buy things for me, I rejected it because I knew that what they were purchasing, was far more than what they were offering.⁠
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You can pray. You can even provide assistance (when ASKED) but understand that you will never be able to purchase your way into his story. And, if you're honest, MANY of you have done this and were either taken for granted or ended up being resented by them. ⁠
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The best support you can give him is standing back and allowing him to get through it alone. How he overcomes his personal hardships, will determine how he will be able to carry you both through yours as a couple.⁠
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#mcm #manup #manupmonday #goodmen #relationshipquotes #relationshiptips #datingmemes #datingquotes #relationshipquotes #marriage365 #godlymarriage #godlyrelationships #realmen #goodmenstillexist #goodman #dating101 #Datingtips #MCE
  • Men Love First. Men Love Hard. Men Love Sacrificially...⁠
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As a man, and more importantly a man of God, I will always strive to reflect His example as a husband before I resort to staying “in my feelings” at the cost of my marriage...⁠
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Will there be times where SHE is wrong? Yep. Will there be times where she doesn’t get it? Absolutely. But Our job is not to MAKE HER right, our job is to BE right.⁠
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It’s time that we stop laying the burden at a woman’s feet to submit to her husband to fix her marriage, and start requiring men to submit to God FIRST.⁠
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Mark my words...If we (men) Submit to God. If we (men) Serve the way we request her to...FIRST...She will follow. It’s in her nature and her God-given DNA to melt in the arms of a man who leads her this way...⁠
🤦🏽‍♂️⁠
And if she doesn’t follow you, seek counseling. Wise counseling...to understand why...⁠
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#relationshiptips #godlymarriage #godlylove #xotribe #godlyrelationships #realhusbands #husbandsofinstagram #couplesgoals #datingquotes #godlyman #manhood
  • You are enough. You are SO MUCH ENOUGH that only a fool would ask you to compromise your ENOUGHNESS for their NOTHINGNESS.⁠
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#thatisall #Selflove #selflovequotes #loveyourself #soulties #toxicrelationships #toxicpeople #healing #youareenough #youdeservemore #madeformore #neversettle
  • When you are going through the dating process, there should never be a point where you are investing all of who you are into someone who is uncertain about who you are to them.⁠
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So much brokenness can be prevented if you take a step back and inspect what they are asking you to invest into.⁠
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If they are unsure.⁠
If they are inconsistent.⁠
If they are OK with you giving all of you while they withold access to themselves from you?!?!⁠
Then the risk and the cost is too high.⁠
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Because the moment you allow yourself to SETTLE in this place of no committment, you've given them permission to keep you there with no expectation of more.⁠
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#TBT #datingtips #datingadvice #datingwithpurpose⁠
#godlydating #healthyrelationships #toxicpeople #breakupssuckk #relationshipgoals #relationshiptips #relationshipgoals #xotribe #dating101
  • This weekend, I traveled home with my husband, a Nigerian man, to celebrate the 70th birthday of my Nigerian father who once rejected me.
😞
Many may not know this about me but as a young girl, my Nigerian father disowned me...it was painful, ugly and humiliating. And it took years of therapy to overcome it.

I spent relationship after relationship seeking love and acceptance from men (and people in general); believing that if I loved harder and gave (changed) more of ME, then my works would EARN love.

Only to be met with more rejection and hurt...
❤️
Kenyon was a surprise. He lead me to the arms of Christ before leading me to his arms (or his bed). And Once I understood that I didn’t have to change me or be anything different to for GOD to love me, I was able to see that I didn’t need to change me or be anything different for Kenyon to love me...
❤️
I was able to receive the gift of reconciliation to my father by birth, after receiving the gift of reconciliation through the grace of my Father by creation...
❤️
And so...This weekend, I traveled home with my husband, a Nigerian man, to celebrate the birthday of my Nigerian father who once rejected me.

And I’m crushing on my Husband today because he took on the responsibility of loving me like Christ loved the church before ever asking anything of me... I love you babe...
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#mce #mancrushmonday #husband #marriage365 #godlymarriage #marriagegoals #marriagetips #healthylove #grace #recklesslove #recklessloveofgod #mcm
  • We are writing our second book together and the process is making us revisit the early days of our relationship...and I must say I have gotten emotional several times because this statement here could not be truer today.
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She is my gift and different than anyone I’ve ever known, yet everything I ever prayed for...And God saw it fit to look beyond my past, my failures, and my faults and bless me with her.

Thank You God 
Just getting my #WCW on... ✌🏽 .
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#wcw #womancrushwednesday #wce #marriage #marriagegoals #marriagequotes #godlymarriage #godlyrelationships #marriagematters
  • Simply put...Adam had to recognize who he was, BEFORE he was able to recognize Eve...
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Find a mentor. Find a brother. Find you....so you can recognize who SHE is...
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#husbandandwife #manhood #relationshipquotes #mcm #marriage365 #marriedlife #relationshipgoals #healthyrelationship #xoman #relationshipmemes #reallovequotes #realmasculinity #godlymarriage #godlyman #godlyrelationships
  • Predictive Text, is when your smart device uses its past experiences with you to predict what you’re going to type or communicate.

As it learns you, it will predict closer to accurate responses, but because it’s not perfect, it offers at least three other options.
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We do this same thing in our relationships.
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It’s cute to know someone so well that you can finish their sentences, or know what they’re thinking. (Even if you still don’t know what they want to eat...lol).
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It’s nice in a pinch,
But it shouldn’t become a habit.

In relationships, When we come to the table with predictions of what someone is thinking or will say, especially when arguing, we risk missing their intent, concerns, voice and value.

Even when their heart is revealed and we know they love us, we can predict something so contrary that it will cause us to act or be seen as unloving.

Don’t talk or argue with your prediction and how that prediction made you feel.

INSTEAD, 
Hear
Listen
Understand 
Confirm Understanding 
Then Respond with their REVEALED  heart in mind. .
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#HealthyLove
#HealthyCommunication
#healthyrelationships 
#marriage365
#datingtips
#datingadvice 
#godlymarriage #godlyrelationships #dating101 #godlydating #communication
  • “If they aren’t going to treat me right, I wish they would just let me go...”
💔
We get it. Because we’ve put up with their treatment for so long...because we’ve given them so much power in our lives, we don’t know what it looks like to take back control...
🤷🏽‍♂️🤷🏽‍♀️
In a word? It’s discipline. In two words—it’s self love. You have to have the discipline to walk forward towards better...and the self love to remind yourself that you deserve it.
❤️
God has already promised to deliver us from our enemies...even those we love but don’t love us back. He has parted the Red Sea for you... His requirement for you is that you walk through it, and don’t turn back...
❤️
If you need some help... The Soul-Ties Detox book is now on sale on our website! Its our journal and working with exercises at each stage to help you find healing wholeness. Click the link in the bio! .
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.
.
.
#soulties #healthylove #cybermonday #toxicrelationships #breakupssuck #healing #wholeness
  • EVERY MAN has a moment of Sink or Swim in his life...those moments that shape and define his character and strength as a GROWN man.⁠
👊🏾⁠
Unfortunately, in a misguided effort to support and uplift him, many women have stunted the growth of their men by removing their obstacles before he’s had the opportunity to do it for himself...⁠
—⁠
When I met Taccara, I had overcome homelessness. I’d lost EVERYTHING-TWICE. I had my own place. I had my own car—paid off. I was supporting myself and my children. Without her— And it was important to me that I didn’t take on a wife until knew I had these things in order.⁠
—⁠
When women offered to do things for me or buy things for me, I rejected it because I knew that what they were purchasing, was far more than what they were offering.⁠
—⁠
You can pray. You can even provide assistance (when ASKED) but understand that you will never be able to purchase your way into his story. And, if you're honest, MANY of you have done this and were either taken for granted or ended up being resented by them. ⁠
—⁠
The best support you can give him is standing back and allowing him to get through it alone. How he overcomes his personal hardships, will determine how he will be able to carry you both through yours as a couple.⁠
.⁠
.⁠
.⁠
.⁠
.⁠
.⁠
.⁠
#mcm #manup #manupmonday #goodmen #relationshipquotes #relationshiptips #datingmemes #datingquotes #relationshipquotes #marriage365 #godlymarriage #godlyrelationships #realmen #goodmenstillexist #goodman #dating101 #Datingtips #MCE
  • Men Love First. Men Love Hard. Men Love Sacrificially...⁠
👊🏾⁠
As a man, and more importantly a man of God, I will always strive to reflect His example as a husband before I resort to staying “in my feelings” at the cost of my marriage...⁠
—⁠
Will there be times where SHE is wrong? Yep. Will there be times where she doesn’t get it? Absolutely. But Our job is not to MAKE HER right, our job is to BE right.⁠
—⁠
It’s time that we stop laying the burden at a woman’s feet to submit to her husband to fix her marriage, and start requiring men to submit to God FIRST.⁠
—⁠
Mark my words...If we (men) Submit to God. If we (men) Serve the way we request her to...FIRST...She will follow. It’s in her nature and her God-given DNA to melt in the arms of a man who leads her this way...⁠
🤦🏽‍♂️⁠
And if she doesn’t follow you, seek counseling. Wise counseling...to understand why...⁠
.⁠
.⁠
.⁠
.⁠
#relationshiptips #godlymarriage #godlylove #xotribe #godlyrelationships #realhusbands #husbandsofinstagram #couplesgoals #datingquotes #godlyman #manhood
  • You are enough. You are SO MUCH ENOUGH that only a fool would ask you to compromise your ENOUGHNESS for their NOTHINGNESS.⁠
.⁠
.⁠
.⁠
.⁠
.⁠
.⁠
#thatisall #Selflove #selflovequotes #loveyourself #soulties #toxicrelationships #toxicpeople #healing #youareenough #youdeservemore #madeformore #neversettle
  • When you are going through the dating process, there should never be a point where you are investing all of who you are into someone who is uncertain about who you are to them.⁠
⁠
So much brokenness can be prevented if you take a step back and inspect what they are asking you to invest into.⁠
⁠
If they are unsure.⁠
If they are inconsistent.⁠
If they are OK with you giving all of you while they withold access to themselves from you?!?!⁠
Then the risk and the cost is too high.⁠
⁠
Because the moment you allow yourself to SETTLE in this place of no committment, you've given them permission to keep you there with no expectation of more.⁠
.⁠
.⁠
.⁠
.⁠
.⁠
#TBT #datingtips #datingadvice #datingwithpurpose⁠
#godlydating #healthyrelationships #toxicpeople #breakupssuckk #relationshipgoals #relationshiptips #relationshipgoals #xotribe #dating101
  • This weekend, I traveled home with my husband, a Nigerian man, to celebrate the 70th birthday of my Nigerian father who once rejected me.
😞
Many may not know this about me but as a young girl, my Nigerian father disowned me...it was painful, ugly and humiliating. And it took years of therapy to overcome it.

I spent relationship after relationship seeking love and acceptance from men (and people in general); believing that if I loved harder and gave (changed) more of ME, then my works would EARN love.

Only to be met with more rejection and hurt...
❤️
Kenyon was a surprise. He lead me to the arms of Christ before leading me to his arms (or his bed). And Once I understood that I didn’t have to change me or be anything different to for GOD to love me, I was able to see that I didn’t need to change me or be anything different for Kenyon to love me...
❤️
I was able to receive the gift of reconciliation to my father by birth, after receiving the gift of reconciliation through the grace of my Father by creation...
❤️
And so...This weekend, I traveled home with my husband, a Nigerian man, to celebrate the birthday of my Nigerian father who once rejected me.

And I’m crushing on my Husband today because he took on the responsibility of loving me like Christ loved the church before ever asking anything of me... I love you babe...
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#mce #mancrushmonday #husband #marriage365 #godlymarriage #marriagegoals #marriagetips #healthylove #grace #recklesslove #recklessloveofgod #mcm

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