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How I Broke Free From Soul-Ties

It wasn’t enough to just identify and remove myself from those who hurt me in relationships. I had to understand why I desired love from people who would never love me the way I deserved.
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There I was…lying in bed, balled up in the fetal position and crying my eyeballs out. He had hurt me to my core and yet, I couldn’t stop “accidentally” calling him. I couldn’t stop replaying all of the lies, all of the cheating and all of the times he’d hurt me over and over in my head. I couldn’t stop trying to figure out what I had done to deserve a pain like this, or what I could have done differently to prevent this undoing of me.

 

I couldn’t sleep. I couldn’t stop tossing and turning. And on the days that I’d almost succeeded in “forgetting” him, my phone would ring and I’d quietly hope it was him. I couldn’t stop wanting him to finally SEE me and LOVE me. But the more I tried to “get him” to love me, the more rejected I felt. The more I tried to seek closure from our break-up, the more broken I became.

 

My testimony didn’t begin with the heartbreak from the man described above. It began with the rejection of my biological father. Being born to a man who considered them a mistake has a way of “hindering” a someone in romantic relationships. Everything I grew to know about love was of a “works-based” mentality that forced me to believe, If I did__________ (insert any and everything I could imagine to get his attention), then my father would SEE me and LOVE me. And guess what? The more I tried to “get him” to love me, the more rejected I felt. Every relationship I had, including the one with my faith and God, was poisoned by the idea that I wasn’t good enough. So I had to work harder.

 

I grew up in church but even there I felt like I had to maintain a certain approval rating to be accepted. What they did not approve of was counseling or anything that required me to seek help outside of the Bible, or them. Counseling and therapy was for people who didn’t know God. Period. So when I struggled with brokenness and defeat, and prayer wasn’t working, I felt like I wasn’t good enough or I wasn’t doing enough. I attended all the revivals, alter-calls and healing services that I could but I was still suffering. Not to say that miracles don’t happen or that others can’t be delivered through these venues, but that wasn’t my experience.

 

In all fairness, it’s important to point out that when I had initially begun to seek healing, I wasn’t being totally honest with God. I would go up for prayer and seek healing for the man who was hurting me, but not FOR me. I wanted God to stop my hurting by forcing this man to treat me right so that we could live happily ever after. However, that’s not how healing works and, thankfully, that’s not how God works either.

 

Through the Soul-Ties Detox process, God wanted to show me myself. Not just my reflection in the mirror, but the condition of my heart. I didn’t just end up in toxic relationships, I was shaped in them. It wasn’t enough to just identify and remove myself from those who hurt me in relationships. I had to understand why I desired love from people who would never love me the way I deserved. So I detoxed using the same process that many are going through today.

 

The Official Soul-Ties® Detox Book is the FIRST of its kind, 5-Week program that will take you on a practical yet spiritual journey of recovery from broken or toxic relationships. In the past, you may have seen about Soul-Ties addressing emotional (intangible) hurt using motivation, inspiration and over spiritualization, while totally ignoring a person’s wounds and the CAUSE of them. As a result, people have walked away from those motivational moments FEELING good…for the moment and unhealed.

 

The Official Soul-Ties® Detox is different because it has been uniquely designed to address the long-term spiritual and practical needs of a person’s emotional healing Journey. We pay close attention to God’s purposeful design of you, the tangible (what we can see and touch), as well as the intangible (what we cannot see and touch). Then we give both the tangible and intangible their due attention by providing an actual process of rescue, recovery and rehabilitation.

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12 Comments
  • Kirsten
    Posted at 05:54h, 02 February

    You are 100% correct in the results. 😣😭

  • Kanisha McLaurin
    Posted at 07:17h, 02 February

    Soul ties is something I’ve often prayed about the severing of them once divorced , they’re very real and God wants them broken especially the unhealthy ones . I desire to be Free Indeed

  • Candra Little
    Posted at 09:18h, 02 February

    Good questions

  • Nora Smith
    Posted at 23:58h, 02 February

    I thank the Lord for y’all. Those words was very encouraging, uplifting & right on time. Continue to let God use you & thank you for being obedient.

  • Andriel
    Posted at 19:04h, 03 February

    Interested in the results

  • Sharee U
    Posted at 04:19h, 04 February

    Thank you

  • Mrs. Angel Alecia Tydings-Downs
    Posted at 14:24h, 05 February

    So much I could share but my godmother keep telling me to write a book… Thankful for your work. Thank you.

  • Taneatia
    Posted at 18:14h, 05 February

    Thank you

  • Shawna
    Posted at 02:47h, 06 February

    Very close to home. Interesting quiz & I’m definitely gonna purchase the book. I look forward to this detox unlike any other!!!

  • Ashaley Clark
    Posted at 07:55h, 06 February

    I’m so broken right now. I need help.
    -Ashaley

  • Tara
    Posted at 08:12h, 10 February

    I have prayed about God breaking any soul ties that I may have to my ex husband, and then I saw this quiz/ad.

  • Gina Burney
    Posted at 19:05h, 19 June

    A soul tie=unhealthy addiction…yes im definately a victim of this real frustrating emotion…im in the process.of a detoxifying my soul..spirit…its tough.

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